Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Butter 'N Bacon Keeping Austin Weird

   Fashion is universal. Places have different symbolism and different execution of expression, but the umbrella it all stands under is fashion and the creativity in it. Zachery Stover sees the rich substance in creativity and I dig it at Butter N’ Bacon, a swagged out clothing and artwork boutique in Austin, Tx. As a poet I love random t-shirts with humorous logic to them and Butter N’ Bacon creates just those t-shirts. Connecting history and art, the Oscar Gamble Shirt caught my attention the most. The Greeting From Austin Shirt is a shirt I could rock any time of the day, pair it with some cute jeans during the day or a tight color blocking skirt for the night life. Still under construction I’ll be scoping Butter N” Bacon for sure. Most definitely a place to stop by if ever checking the Austin scene.
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Ray "Rei" Alvarez: A Mural Master

               Since I was young I’ve always love art. I thank my art teacher Kerri Curtis for influencing me so much in elementary school, taking students to art museums, opening our minds to the world of art skill. My youth runs with me today as one of the things I still do is search for art and write my feelings on it. I don’t make it to many art gallery events as I would like, but it doesn’t stop me from discovering new artists.
            I was looking up some things on Gallery 77, a fresh art and clothing boutique, when I came across a blog article on a mural Rei Alvarez did on the walls of Gallery 77. The mural was dope; a contemporary portrayal of a longhorn, perfect for any Austin boutique.  Looking further I found out why the mural was so dope—not to be confused with any other artist Ray “Rei” Alvarez is an artistic genius with a retro vision incorporated in many of his works. Specializing in murals Alvarez has done many exclusive projects beyond the canvas. Forever a music junkie I love seeing music and art in one, his Pink Floyd themed backdrop for a party last august and the live painting session during Texas Relays 2011 took me back to high school track days.


A founder of All City Branding, Ray’s creative impulses and cultural wisdoms take him from his birthplace of Spain to the southern comforts of Texas. Best believe I’ll be on the lookout for new art pieces from Rei and other graffiti artists in affiliation. Check out to see Rei’s artwork exclusively.


Friday, June 22, 2012

6 Tips Before Marriage

6 Tips Before Marriage

If you want to marry learn to share control

You must like, respect and love yourself before you can share your life with someone else

If you have to justify why you are with them—he or she isn’t the one
Many try to ignore the red flags even though they are obviously there. This is one of them

Don’t sleep together before marriage
It’s a hard thing to do and I commend those who have the discipline to. For those who do sleep together before marriage, don’t beat yourself up about it everyone has free will and current traditions are different than the past. Be aware that sex can blind us at times thus absence of it could help make clear decisions for one big decision

Wait until late twenties or early thirties to get married
This allows time to get to know more about self. Yes in a committed relationship your spouse is supposed to build you help, but it is not their sole responsibility. You are your sole responsibility thus you have to put in the energy to become who you want to be to your best ability before getting married

Be able to support yourself and live by yourself before you commit to living with someone else for life

3 Things To Consider Before Choosing a Life Partner

Growth, self-awareness and maturity are vital before making a decision on a life mate. These vital phases take place from patience and time of being on your own, finding own identity and growing spiritually. Without these components you may find yourself in someone else’s drama. Here are a few things to consider before choosing a partner for the long haul.

1.       Are They Mature?
A mature person is willing to take responsibility without excuse so you have to ask yourself, is the person you are considering to live your life with willing or unwilling to be held accountable for their actions? An immature person will have an excuse for everything, taking no blame for anything. In the long run always having an excuse or never taking accountability can cause your spouse to wonder whether they are getting the truth or simply more excuses. The main reason for this behavior in an individual is the notion that “if what I do is seen as wrong then I won’t be loved,” a complex usually harbored from childhood where mistakes or mishaps were counteracted by ridicule, punishment, shame, no affection or isolation.

2.       Do They Have a Healthy Mindset?
Unhealthy people match with unhealthy people; healthy people match with healthy people. Most people know what happens when you put crabs in pot of hot water. For those that don’t I’ll explain---in any situation of survival there is a fight or flight response; when crabs are put in a pot of hot water they naturally try to reach up to get out, but what happens is the crabs below inevitably pull them down. There comes a time in some lives where they want to grow for the better, one unhealthy individual will always try to undermine the other’s attempt to get healthy because they don’t want to be alone. Still not seeing the big picture, huh? Look at it this way, two people crouch down, one stands, the other person can either stand or pull the other down---beware of the person who tries to pull you down.

Fear is the common force behind mismatched people in relationships---fear of another failed relationship, fear of not being able to sustain the pain or transition of change.

3.       Is It Love or Lust?
Love is not about infatuation or lust. Some think because they do so many crazy and irrational things over someone that they must really love that person---correction, you must really lust that person because those actions are related to infatuation and lust more than love itself. Lust is an irrational frame of mind; infatuation is the initial phase of genuinely liking someone: having butterflies when you see them, air being bittersweet, everything they do is seemingly perfect; there is an initial euphoria that takes place between two people upon early encounters. As time progresses and those feelings level out the work begins and for both involved it’s a turning point. A person in lust may leave because they see it as the feelings aren’t the same anymore, believing the overwhelming feelings from the beginning aren’t there anymore which isn’t necessarily the case. When one gets past the lust and infatuation stage love can grow as respect, awe, admiration and trust.

What do you think? What did you ask yourself before you decided someone was the one? What do you think a person should think about before deciding to spend their life with someone?

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Shacking Up, Hooking Up and Courting---What's The DIfference?


      Remember when two hearts met somewhere within our crazy world and committed themselves to another in love and friendship without sex as the immediate focus, instead growing in intimacy and sensuality through flirtation and chivalry? You have to admire the individuals that still attempt it because in this day and age, as fulfilling as the journey is, courting is rare in the vocabulary of those pursuing a relationship yet many expect the elements of courtship in shacking and hooking up situations. Courting is for two people to get to know each other and discuss long term topics: spirituality, career plans, families functioning together and children. Most importantly, courting involves developing a friendship and understanding the true knowledge and nature of one another. One thing to note --- being able to understand someone’s true knowledge and nature requires that both individuals open up and express true knowledge, meaning disclosure has to take place, trust has to take place, patience has to take place.

Hook Ups

      A large number of girls and guys have experienced divorced households, domestic violence or bad break ups that have left detrimental effects on their definition of love and what a healthy relationship can be, bringing the value of love to the glass ceiling of immediately gratifying “loving” or “lustful” moments as the solution to dodging the heartbreak bullet. Truth is it doesn’t work as many see it to, outside of immediate gratification hooking up is having without truly giving; hooking up allows a person to have another, physically, without fully giving themselves over mentally; hooking up let’s a person enjoy pleasures of a relationship minus the effort it takes to get through rough patches.  Hence, the rule of thumb in this situation is usually no emotions or serious attachments. As laws of attraction would have it, someone inevitably wants more which isn’t surprising if one understands what an individual gets themselves into when hooking up. If you’re hooking up with someone consistently you begin to “micro-court” with them, getting small glimpses of long term topics, eventually wanting the things both agreed they wouldn’t give--- disclosure, trust and true knowledge.

Things Aren’t Always As They Seem

Due to this dilemma, hook ups have a small window of opportunity to become something more and committing, but most times it becomes nothing more than what it is, an iffy road of confusion, frustration and uncertainty.

Shacking Up

      More and more people are opting to “shack up” or live together before marriage. On one end it’s a chance to truly see and experience building a life with someone and determining if both people are compatible for each other in the long run without taking that long leap. There are many pros and cons to living together before marriage, in addition to other factors like an individual’s beliefs on marriage versus commitment ceremony, shacking up can be beneficial in firsthand experience but if living together doesn’t work if can hinder the outlook on committed relationships. Those couples successful in living together before marriage tend to be more successful due to being secure in themselves as individuals and have figured out more of the ideals and goals they would like to establish, and their partner to establish, in a committed relationship.

What do you think? Are shacking up, hooking up and courting separate paths or phases towards one outcome?

Regardless the path you are on, looking for someone or single, in any situation I believe what it comes down to are the individuals involved. If two people truly want to be committed to each other the effort will come to produce the outcome sought after; patience is necessary in a relationship---take some battles with the ease of a summer’s breeze and others by their throats, but choose them wisely.

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Heading Out?

Tell me if this scenario sounds right---you’re getting a little older so your enjoyments are different, what you do in a club has changed, so you get grown woman dolled up or grown man fresh only to go to a shindig where girls are taking their heels off so they can “twerk” and dudes are amped up left and right ready to fight. Time and time again I’ve seen it and    I’m sure I’m not the only one too through with the stereotypical club scene experience.

Finally Famous Fridays

For those out on the town not sure where to go for a good time, Franco’s Lounge is the spot if you’re looking to kick back, enjoy some good drinks and groove like the grown folks you are with Dj Lousianimal bringing the tunes. Playing a little bit of everything, from all eras, don’t be surprised if Dj Louisianimal music takes you down memory lane on Finally Famous Fridays. With great drink specials and pizza served all night, COME OUT & ENJOY SOMETHING DIFFERENT!

Every Friday be part of Franco’s Dance Party Weekend
 “Finally Famous Fridays” with DJ Louisianimal

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Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Need Your Hair Done?--Braids? Locs? Twists? Natural Hair?

 Hall of Fame~House of Braids NOW OPEN!!!!!

Tired of damaging chemicals?

       Thinking about going natural?


 Already on a natural hair journey?

Want to try more hairstyles, but not sure what to do or where to go?

  Regardless the situation, Hall of Fame~House of Beauty is a shop specializing in braids, twists, locs, various natural hairstyles and hair care and sew-ins using NO CHEMICALS. Hall of Fame-House of Beauty also provides natural and organic body care products.

          With a neo soul vibe, Hall of Fame~House of Beauty is a mini retreat of relaxation and stress relief --- a home away from home--- as you get your hair done in an establishment of comfort and serenity. Come by, experience professional results in an environment of soul and enlightenment.
Hall of Fame~House of Beauty
6565 Babcock Road, suite 13
San Antonio, TX 78249
(210) 584-8406


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